i think that the fact that Lupin tried so hard to distance himself from his family actually made me love him even more. i've always adored Lupin as a character- who wouldn't? he's kind and wise and just an all-around great guy.

i can understand his reasons for trying to run away, and, in a way, i can accept his actions as honorable. he didn't want to keep his family in danger, and he was afraid of any negative perspectives he might have gained from his own son. after being rejected for so long in life, it doesn't seem so irrational to expect the worst from people, even those you care for. i think his self-esteem had been burned and demolished long before he married Tonks, and all his worrys and doubts just hit him ten-fold after his child came.

so, yes, i always have and always will admire and respect Lupin as a character.